The Veteran Dad, Ben Killoy, talks about parenting as a service member! | From Military to Millionaire Podcast

Episode: 140
Ben Killoy
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Join your hosts, David Pere and Alex Felice, with their guest Ben Killoy, as they speak about where opportunities lie in life, the essence of creating relationships, and the struggle of men to find significance at work and at home. 'A machine of ideas,' is what Alex calls Ben in this whole talk. For one, to gain clarity, Ben believes that it is crucial to heed curiosity, for they're the breadcrumbs to where one's desire intends to be in life.  
 
As someone who helps family men find back the joy and life in being a part of the household and family after service, Ben breaks down the factors that make it hard for men to do so. He explains how the media, the culture within the military, and the taboo-like treatment of talking about struggles in the military contribute to the stigma of life after service that the majority of military men experience. To supplement the subject, he also gives tips on how men can position themselves back in the family, after service, in a way that takes everyone's pace into account.
 
In this episode, Ben also talks about fatherhood, marriage, and children. When it comes to parenting, he believes it's more about the parents than about the kind of kids and children involved - a thesis he finds in common on the topic of marriage. Marriage depends so much on each individual's level of maturity in life, he explains. From experience, Ben saw that most of the problems in these areas in union lie in the person's inability to grow up and calm down.
 
About Ben Killoy:
 
Ben helps high-performing men with thriving business lives, and out of balance family lives get excited about pulling into their driveaway at home again.
 
Outline of the episode:
 
[02:13] Different actions for different results.
[07:58] On preference – people or things?
[13:26] The elements that go against men coming home from deployment.
[18:00] Where are you headed?
[22:48] The resources to rewire you on parenting and marriage.
[26:57] A mind's game that has been going on for ages; One hand up and one hand down.
[35:24] Most people don't have a broad enough view of the American Dream.
[38:07] On showing up as the friend you
[41:23] "When you want new ideas, go read something old."
[55:04] What people think about you doesn't have to be true.
[59:10] On the misconception and misconnection with money.
[1:06:15] An analogy that smacks right in the face of real estate.
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Screamfree Parenting Book by Hal Runkel:
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The Righteous Mind - Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and Religion Book by Jonathan Haidt:
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The Total Money Makeover - A Proven Plan for Financial Fitness Book by Dave Ramsey:
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